What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to understand, express, and manage one’s emotions. Emotional intelligence also encompasses one’s capacity to handle interpersonal relationships carefully and empathetically. With strong emotional intelligence, you can build strong relationships, achieve your personal and professional goals, make sound decisions, communicate effectively, use problem solving skills, and even preform more successfully academically and professionally. Who wouldn’t want that?
Helpguide.org breaks down emotional intelligence into four components: self-management, self-awareness, social awareness, and relationship management. Self-management is the ability to control your emotions and actions, adapt, and follow through on commitments. Self-awareness is being conscious of your feelings and thoughts and how they motivate your behavior. Social awareness is your ability to empathize with others and pick up on emotional and social cues. Finally, having strong relationship management skills means you can develop and maintain strong relationships, use teamwork, and manage conflict. Together, these skills are referred to as emotional intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence & Goalsetting
So, why is emotional intelligence important? In short, having a strong EQ is the key to achieving success in life. Having a high intelligence quotient (IQ) alone does not guarantee success. While your IQ helps you with your academics, forming successful relationships and managing your emotions are part of your EQ. Emotional intelligence affects your school and work performance, physical and mental health, and your relationships. It is also an important factor when it comes to following through on your goals.
According to Jennifer Shirkani, author and EQ expert, “emotional intelligence is a critical factor in effective goal setting that is often forgotten.” Here are some ways having strong EI can help you reach your goals:
When setting goals, it is important to know your own limitations and practice self-awareness. As you write S.M.A.R.T. goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound), think of what goals are reasonable and attainable. While setting goals that stretch and challenge you is good practice, attempting to do too much too soon may lead to frustration and demotivation.
Relationship management is another important factor when goalsetting, especially when you are working on a team. Practice empathy when assisting colleagues who are struggling formulating their S.M.A.R.T. goals. Try to see issues from others’ point of view. If necessary, decide how timescales can be adjusted or resources can be reallocated to help your teammate reach success. It is also important to hold others on your team accountable through accountability partnerships. Inc.com writes, “Using situational awareness, find opportunities to articulate your goals to others who can both challenge you if they see you slipping and support you when you need it.”
Keep your emotions in check when working towards your goals by celebrating your wins. Not reaching a target can be discouraging. When feeling defeated, focus on what you have accomplished and “use that positive emotion to fuel confidence and maintain momentum” (Inc.com). Recognizing your progress and staying positive will keep you going even when the going gets tough. Build your self-management skills by practicing mindfulness, expressing gratitude, and keeping a growth mindset.
Cristal Victoria Consulting (CVC) & EQ
What CVC tools can help you build your EQ?
- Build Self-Awareness Skills: S.M.A.R.T. Goal
This S.M.A.R.T. Goal set walks individuals through building S.M.A.R.T. goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timebound), and includes a blank template for recording up to 10 goals. The set can be used independently or as a planner insert with an existing system. This is a great instructional template for those new to goal setting.
- Build Relationship Management Skills: Accountabilibuddy Set
There is no doubt about it—accountability accelerates your performance. Studies show that your odds of completing a goal are substantially increased if you make a commitment to someone. While you may not be comfortable with publicly broadcasting your goals, sharing them with at least one trusted individual is highly recommended. We call this individual your accountabilibuddy. The CVC Accountabilibuddy Questionnaire includes an accountability guide and 10-question questionnaire to use with your goal accountabilibuddy on a weekly, monthly, or quarterly basis.
- Build Self-Management Skills: Goal Atlas Tracker
This Goal Setting Tool & Planner Insert is designed to help individuals track their monthly goals as well as weekly and daily habits. The template also allows gives users space to write down their priority for the month and notes. Use the notes section to celebrate your wins for the month!
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